Helpful precautions for new submissive girls by hungandnasty A wonderful post from @RainDeGrey about a negative first experience as a sub and the dangers posed by untrustworthy Doms prompted me to write this in reply. It is a set of simple guidelines for submissive girls who are just starting out in the scene and considering … Read more
This following info is brought to you from http://www.thetwilightguard.org/ The Hanky Code (also known as the handkerchief code, the bandana code, and flagging) is a color-coded system, employed usually among the gay male or practitioners in the leather subculture in the United States, Canada, and Europe, to indicate preferred sexual fetishes, what kind of sex … Read more
TL:DR version: an over reliance on vetting creates a false sense of security that I believe to be incredibly dangerous. We need to recognize the limits of public vetting, and take our own precautions. There are no life guards on duty. Play at your own risk. Once again a member of the Calgary community has … Read more
There are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. I look around the apartment and see what needs to be done, dishes, laundry, dinner prep, grocery shopping and I think to myself I really don’t wanna do any of it. Daddy will give me errands to run and even though I’m nodding my head … Read more
I am sure there are hundreds, more likely thousands, of writings on communication but yet we, as a society, struggle with it every single day in all parts of our lives. Communication is the Golden Key. No matter how long, or how short, your time within the BDSM lifestyle is, communication which is open and … Read more
Collaring is the expression used by people in the D/s lifestyle to describe the beginning of a relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. A formal collaring ceremony which is the final step, is akin to a wedding and denotes the same level and depth of commitment between the two people involved. There are various … Read more
Filling Out a Fetish/ Kink/ BDSM Checklist – a Guide for New Submissives and Dominants by Bea Amor In all my attempts to advise new submissives, I always tell them to fill out their BDSM/ kink checklist and to fill one out with each new Dominant in order to find out whether they actually fit … Read more
Since joining the more public fetish community a bit over a year ago, I’ve frequently received messages – first, from people who’d seen me scene in public, then from people who’d seen pictures of me post-scene on mine or another’s profile – that basically came down to, “teach me to be a masochist like you!! … Read more