I am sure there are hundreds, more likely thousands, of writings on communication but yet we, as a society, struggle with it every single day in all parts of our lives. Communication is the Golden Key. No matter how long, or how short, your time within the BDSM lifestyle is, communication which is open and … Read more
Collaring is the expression used by people in the D/s lifestyle to describe the beginning of a relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. A formal collaring ceremony which is the final step, is akin to a wedding and denotes the same level and depth of commitment between the two people involved. There are various … Read more
Filling Out a Fetish/ Kink/ BDSM Checklist – a Guide for New Submissives and Dominants by Bea Amor In all my attempts to advise new submissives, I always tell them to fill out their BDSM/ kink checklist and to fill one out with each new Dominant in order to find out whether they actually fit … Read more
Since joining the more public fetish community a bit over a year ago, I’ve frequently received messages – first, from people who’d seen me scene in public, then from people who’d seen pictures of me post-scene on mine or another’s profile – that basically came down to, “teach me to be a masochist like you!! … Read more
BDSM 101: Subspace, Aftercare, and Sub-drop (and sometimes Top-drop) Dr Dexter SUBSPACE Within the context of BDSM, “subspace” is a an altered psychological state that is often entered into by the person bottoming in a scene. It is not easy to characterize, because each person’s reactions to BDSM play can be quite different — and … Read more
BDSM 101 – How to Survive Sub Drop After that Kinky Scene Last Week A Submissive’s Guide to Recovery Bea Amor Remember the last time you played with that delightful new dominant and the scene was so great that you floated for three whole days. Nothing in the world could have bothered you and life … Read more
Basic Scene Protocols By SirMagic Most people who have entered the scene within the last couple of years really have no idea of what constitutes Basic Protocols nor what they specifically are. Over the years I have watched as the heterosexual BDSM scene has become more an more “causal” to the point where even Emily … Read more
An Absolute Beginner’s Guide to Domination by sexsmurf You come home one ordinary afternoon, and there is your girlfriend looking nervous. She has something she wants to talk to you about, and you’re thinking, “ok, if she crashed the car again I’m not going to get angry.” It’s not that though, it’s…sexual stuff. Now you’re … Read more